What Kind of Friend Are You?
Denny 16 Jul 2008 | : Self-Improvement
Friendship counts. Whatever your life goals are, you’ll achieve them faster and enjoy them more completely if you surround yourself with good friends - and if you yourself are a good friend to those around you.
Based on my experience, I’d say that a good friendship is a relationship of good intent. A good friend is someone who wishes you well, who cares about your problems, who enjoys your triumphs, and who will sacrifice for you. On the other hand, a bad friendship is based on taking rather than giving. A bad friend is one who just sees you as a resource, as a person he can get something from.
Here’s a test that you can use to determine whether you are (or someone you know is) the right kind of friend or
the "what’s-in-it-for-me?" type…
How strongly do you identify with the following comments?
1. "When I am introduced to someone, I am primarily concerned with that person’s importance - financial, political, commercial, etc. - to me or my world."
2. "If I meet someone who has nothing to give me or teach me - or who can’t even amuse me - I act civilly but coolly."
3. "The best thing about having friends is that they are willing to listen to my problems."
4. "The next-best thing about friends is that they will do business with my honey/spouse."
5. "Another value of friendship is that if I get into serious financial trouble, my friends will be financially capable of helping me out."
Rate yourself (or your friend) on a scale of 1 to 4 for each of the above statements, with 4 representing "strongly agree" and 1 representing "strongly disagree."
If you scored a perfect 20, consider yourself on your way to a major career in politics or Hollywood. (I’m guessing.)
If you scored a perfect 5, you will be happy for the rest of your life.
If you scored somewhere in between, decide for yourself which direction you want to move in.
