Tell Your Child What To Do
Denny 06 Oct 2008 | : Parenting Tips
In my daily dealings with families, I constantly hear parents telling their child what NOT to do.
"Don’t Touch That!"
"Stop That!"
"Don’t Stand There!"
"Stop Running!"
"Be Quiet!"
It would be so much easier to give your child some directions on what they SHOULD BE doing and then they would not have to guess on what is ok and what is not ok.
Pre-framing is the key to successful parenting. On your way to the store have a conversation that goes something like this:
"When we are in the store I expect you to keep your hands to yourself. That means not touching anything on the shelves without asking my permission first. I also expect you to stay with me at all times. Running in the store is not acceptable behavior. Finally, I expect you to use your manners and inside voice. If you choose to break these rules we will have to leave the store immediately and you will not be able to choose any of the items we are shopping for…any questions?"
Parents are shocked when I lay this out for them. By laying the ground rules before you get to your location you can avoid 80% of the troubles that arise. The remaining 20% is reminding them of the rules if they break them.
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